The Grass is Greener Where You Water It

🌱The Grass is Greener Where You Water It 🌦

We all know the agony of comparison – in friendships, in parenting, and in our marriages. Social media has multiplied this feeling exponentially. Everyone else’s marriage looks easy breezy on Facebook, so why don’t I have that? 📸

The truth is, ALL of our relationships have their challenges. Chances are, if you could see the secret struggles of the relationships behind the picture perfect filters, you’d probably RUN back to your spouse and be grateful for the small problems you are faced with in comparison. 🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

All of our relationships have seasons that are hard. We are individuals driven to seek our own happiness, yet relationships require the selflessness to put someone else’s needs above you own. It’s unnatural to us, which is why we have to be intentional in connecting with one another. 💑

Think about what first attracted you to your spouse. Of all the people in the world, you CHOSE this person! That’s a really BIG DEAL!

Take some time to reflect on the qualities that made you choose your husband/wife. These are the foundations of your marriage and I bet they are still true!
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Now go share these qualities with him/her! Here’s a little script to get you started:
“When we first met, I fell in love with you because ________. I knew I wanted to marry you because _________. I really appreciate that you still ________. Thank you for __________.”

We are all looking for affirmation and confidence that we are ENOUGH and we are seen and valued. Practice giving that to your spouse, and chances are, you will receive it back in return.

✨SET YOUR INTENTION FOR 2019. ✨

Intentions are the fuel to manifesting your goals and visions for yourself in the new year. Without an intention there is no map, and you’re just driving down a road with no destination in mind. You can’t set an intention that you don’t believe or commit to.

Here are a few examples of intentions to consider this year:
* I intend to choose happiness every day.
* I intend to respond first, and then react.
* I intend to lead by example in all relationships.
* I intend to stop taking things personally.
* I intend to forgive others, and myself.
* I intend to love others unconditionally.
* I intend to guard my time and say “no” to commitments that do not bring me joy.
If you have another intention in mind that isn’t listed above, go for it! Just remember to keep these three important points in mind as you set your intention:

1. Keep it positive.
Your chosen intention should always be positive, uplifting, and always in the present tense. You want to refrain from using any negative words.

2. Make sure it can evolve.
Our minds are very clever… when something new comes along, the mind is intrigued. But as time passes, the mind gets bored! If you stick with the same intention week after week, your mind will stop responding to it. The best way to resolve this is to make sure your intention or goal can easily be adjusted.

3. Aim for the short term.
You can still think of the big picture — just divide your long-term intention into few shorter ones instead. After successfully manifesting your short-term intentions, you will ultimately reach the actual goal that you had been nurturing in the first place.

I’d love to hear what goals you are setting for the year! Get an accountability buddy and and share your goals for the new year! 🌈☀️2️⃣0️⃣1️⃣9️⃣