Here’s another #realtalk post that hits close to home. Call it confidence or self-esteem, but we either have too little or too much. It’s a catch-22. Like most things in life, there is a continuum between a meek wallflower and arrogant peacock. The wallflower appears weak while the latter is an obnoxious nuisance. So how do we find balance?

Most people I meet live in the land of insecurity and struggle with feelings of inadequacy. They feel unworthy and unequal. Meanwhile, those who exude confidence are criticized for arrogance – making it safer to live in the security of insecurity.

More often than not, confidence critics are making judgements from a place of envy and inadequacy. They struggle with insecurities and don’t want to be left in the wake of the confident achiever. These opinions don’t matter. Strive for greatness and don’t look to your left or your right. Your only competition is the person you were yesterday.

Your confidence comes from your own success. Set goals that matter, take on challenges that are difficult, and persist when the setbacks come. This is where your confidence will thrive.